Why does nobody talk about how book club debates can ruin friendships

I got feedback from my book club after we fought over 'The Midnight Library' for two hours. One member said I was too intense about my take that the book was shallow. Now I try to let others talk first and ask questions instead of pushing my opinion. Has anyone else had to change how they argue in a book club to keep the peace?

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river9521mo ago

my friend sarah had a whole thing happen in her book club over 'a little life'. she kept saying the trauma was too over the top and one of the other members got super defensive because her sister had gone through something similar. they had to take a week off and then agree that everybody gets two minutes to talk before anyone can jump in. she still goes but she says she just bites her tongue now whenever someone gushes about a book she hated.

blakestone1mo ago

@river952 yeah, book clubs can get weird. Some people take liking a book way too personally.

price.ben1mo ago

Why can't people just say "not for me" and move on?