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Hot take: I swore I'd never block my sister's number, caved after the 4th 2am call
I held out for almost 7 months on cutting contact with my older sister, mostly because our mom kept saying "she's family, you don't shut the door on family." The thing that flipped me was a voicemail she left on a Tuesday at 2:14am, just screaming about a $60 phone bill she thought I owed her from a shared plan we ended back in 2021. I listened to it twice, saved it, and blocked her number right there in my kitchen. Part of why I waited so long was guilt, and part was this dumb idea that blocking someone was for dramatic people on daytime TV. My mom pushed back for about a week, then let it go once I played her the voicemail. Six weeks in and my chest doesn't feel tight every time my phone buzzes anymore. Curious if anyone here cut off a sibling and how you handled the family holidays after, because Thanksgiving is coming up fast.
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drew_hart43d ago
Small correction, she actually saved the voicemail to play later rather than keeping it as backup proof from the start, but the exit plan tip is solid. Showing up late and leaving before dessert really does take the pressure off the whole day.
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harper9143d ago
Feeling for you on this, the guilt part is so real and it sounds like you gave her way more chances than most people would. Keeping that voicemail to play for your mom was smart, it takes the fight out of the whole "but she's family" thing when people hear it for themselves. For Thanksgiving, keeping it short and having an exit plan helped me, like showing up for the meal and dipping before dessert, and your mileage may vary but it made the day way less tense.
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