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One phone call from my brother at 11pm broke our bridge for good
He called after our mom's surgery last month, not to check on her, but to demand I sell her house so he could get his half right away. I told him she was still recovering in the hospital, and he said, quote, "She's old, she won't need it much longer." I hung up and haven't spoken to him since, and I blocked his number after he texted me a $40,000 invoice for 'lost time.' Has anyone else had a sibling turn into a vulture over family stuff, and how did you keep from exploding on them?
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amy_craig281mo ago
My friend Dana went through this exact thing when her dad got sick, her sister showed up at the hospital with a realtor’s card and asked if she could list the place while he was still in ICU. She didn't explode, she just told her sister to leave and then changed the locks on the family cabin. It's been two years and they only talk through lawyers now, so honestly you're probably better off staying blocked.
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karencampbell1mo ago
Two years is actually a pretty long time to hold that line, and honestly, most people would've caved way before that. I mean, the cabin might be worth fighting over legally, but I've seen cases where changing locks on shared property can backfire if the deed has both names on it, so if she didn't check that first, she might've created more problems. Not saying Dana was wrong to do it, just that it's not always as clean as it sounds. Also, blocking someone forever is totally valid, but it does mean missing out on stuff like medical updates or even funeral planning, which can get messy through lawyers. Maybe it's just me, but I'd want a third party to handle the property stuff so the family part can at least stay neutral, even if it's just for a phone call once a year. Honestly, staying blocked is probably fine, but I'd keep a close eye on any shared bills or mail that still come to her old address, because that's where the real headaches start.
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