Took me 18 months to finally block my sister's number for good

I kept waiting for the right moment to cut off my toxic sister but there never is one, so I just did it cold turkey last Tuesday. Has anyone else had a family cutting feel like it took forever to actually pull the trigger?

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the_max1mo ago

You said it felt like 'there never is one' for the right moment. That part hit me because I think there actually is a moment, it's just not a nice one. For me it was when my brother showed up drunk to my kid's birthday party and started yelling at everyone. That was it. Not a calm decision, just finally snapped. Before that I kept telling myself maybe next time he'll be different or maybe I'm overreacting. So yeah, it took forever but looking back the real moment was already there, I just kept ignoring it until I couldn't anymore.

shane_hayes1mo ago

Man that story from @the_max really hits close to home. Had a similar thing with my own brother at a family barbecue a few years back. He showed up late, started picking fights with everyone, then knocked over the grill. That was the moment for me too. Not some deep conversation or calm sit down. Just watching him ruin something good and realizing I'd been making excuses for him for years. Sometimes the right moment is just the one where you finally get tired of being tired.

the_susan1mo ago

Honestly I used to be in the "there's never a right time" camp too. But that story about your brother really put it into perspective for me. Sometimes the moment is just ugly and you finally realize you've been ignoring it all along.