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Tried a 'soft no contact' with my mom, it backfired way harder than I thought
Last month I decided to slowly step back from my mom instead of doing a big dramatic cut off. I figured shorter calls, less texting, maybe she'd get the hint without a huge fight. Instead she showed up at my apartment in Phoenix on a Tuesday night with a suitcase and a key I never gave her. Turns out my brother told her about my plan and she panicked. I learned that for me, gentle fade-outs just give toxic people more time to push back. Has anyone else had a gradual cutoff blow up in their face like this?
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claire_davis311mo ago
Whoa, wait. Your brother straight up ratted you out to her? That's a whole other layer of mess you gotta deal with on top of your mom showing up unannounced. Did he think he was helping, or was he just trying to get on her good side? Because honestly, that move says a lot about where his loyalty sits. And what did you even do when she showed up at your door with a suitcase, like did you let her in or shut it in her face?
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