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That 'just be yourself' advice for dating profiles is actually terrible
After watching my buddy swipe for 2 hours last week i realized most people's profiles are so vague and boring because they're trying to be 'themselves' instead of showing one specific interesting thing about their life, like a photo of them actually doing something they love instead of a mirror selfie, has anyone else noticed generic profiles get way less matches?
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gavin22810d ago
Bro my buddy did the same thing last weekend and it was painful to watch. He had all these generic selfies and a bio that said "just looking for someone to chill with" and got like zero matches for an hour. I told him to swap out his main pic for one of him actually playing guitar at a show and suddenly he got like 5 matches in 10 minutes. Being yourself is fine but you gotta show it in action not just say it.
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paulw5310d ago
Man I used to be one of those people who preached "just be yourself" all the time. Thought it was the golden rule of dating profiles. But after helping a friend completely redo his profile (he had a picture of him hiking with his dog and a line about his homebrewing hobby) and watching his matches jump up, I had to admit my advice was kinda wrong. The problem is that "being yourself" often translates into being boring and generic because nobody's exciting all the time. You gotta pick the most interesting parts of your life and lead with those, not just throw up a bathroom mirror selfie (you know, the classic). Your buddy with the guitar picture is a perfect example, that's still "being himself" but in a way that actually shows off something cool and specific.
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