Tried the slow burn approach vs being direct. Night and day difference.

Matched with this girl on Hinge. Decided to play it cool for a week. Short texts. Waiting hours to reply. She lost interest fast. Switched up on the next match. Asked her out on day two. Said I liked her laugh in her profile. We grabbed drinks three days later. Got a second date lined up. Anyone else find that being upfront works way better than playing games?

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jessej231mo ago

Oh wow, that's exactly what happened to my buddy Dave! He was doing the whole wait-three-days thing with a girl from Bumble and she straight up unmatched him. Then he tried what you did with the next match, told her he liked her travel photos and asked if she wanted tacos that weekend. They've been together four months now. @ivanbell hit it right on the head, women can smell the games from a mile away. Being real just works better, plain and simple.

hayes.casey1mo ago

Hang on, I gotta push back on this. My buddy Mike tried the whole "be upfront and ask her out fast" thing and it totally backfired. He messaged a girl on Hinge, said something about her dog pic, suggested coffee that week. She unmatched him too. Said she thought he was too eager and it felt desperate. So I don't know, it seems like sometimes playing it cool works better for certain people. Maybe it depends on the person you're talking to or the vibe they're giving off first.

ivanbell1mo ago

Ha! No kidding. The whole "slow burn" thing is just a fancy way of saying "act like you don't care." Women aren't stupid, they can tell when you're sitting on your thumbs playing games. I tried that once years back and got ghosted harder than a bad paint job. Soon as I started just saying what I wanted and asking them out quick, things actually moved. It's almost like people appreciate honesty over some weird performance art. Good on you for figuring it out before wasting more time on that nonsense.